Early Learning of Self-Confidence and Self-Control

Your baby or toddler is learning from the moment he or she enters the world. During the first 3 years, your child is beginning to develop self-control. Although it may not be obvious during the “terrible twos” he is beginning to manage his feelings and actions. He is also learning to wait, share, and work out problems with his friends.

Your child’s self-confidence is also being developed. She is learning that she is a very special person; that she is loved, smart, fun and capable. When children feel good about themselves, they are more confident and willing to take on new challenges. Here are some helpful things you can do to assist your young child in developing self-control and self-confidence:

·         Use words to help your child understand his feelings. “You are really mad because we have to leave the park now.”

·         Give choices to older toddlers. “Would you like to read books before or after we brush teeth?”

·         Stay calm when your child is upset. This helps him feel safe and get back in control.

·         Comment on what your child does well. “You found the button that makes the bear pop up!”

·         Help your child be a good problem-solver. Give her the support she needs to be successful without completely solving the problem for her.

·         Give your child to chance to do things for himself, like pouring milk from a small plastic pitcher.

·         Encourage your child to keep trying. “You are working so hard to get the ball in the basket. Sometimes it takes lots of tries?”

For more information from the National Center for Infants, Toddlers, and Families: www.zerotothree.org/schoolreadiness.