Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Grandparents Raising Grandchildren
Every child needs attention! This is especially true for children being raised by their grandparents. Often, these children have experienced significant trauma and loss in their lives. For some grandchildren, the only way to get attention is by misbehaving. It may be as simple as doing things to annoy their grandparents or disobeying the house rules.
Here are some suggestions we offer grandparents in our programs:
1. Do not give the grand-child attention by responding to misbehavior.
2. Ignore the misbehavior unless life, limb, or other safety issues are concerned.
3. Catch the grandchild displaying appropriate behavior and acknowledge this behavior intermittently with a simple smile, “thank-you,” “good job” or hug.
4. Spend quality one-on-one time with your grand-child as often as possible. Take time to talk and explain situations.
Grandchildren’s attention -seeking behaviors may have many root causes. There is no best way to respond. The fact that grandparents are concerned and are trying to meet their grandchildren’s needs is a good sign they are.